Persuasive ability is a quality that adds profit in most areas of life. Some people are naturally born with this ability, while others have to learn it along the way. Persuasiveness is what gives successful Businessmen edge over other, gains people promotion at their work place, makes people buy from us, makes people open up to us, etc...
To successfully persuade people to adopt your view or do things your way requires a skillful show of: charisma, confidence, maturity, passion, patience, care and respect for other people. You simply CANNOT shove your views down other people's throats; they will explode in your face, and if you appear to be making too much of an effort you will narrow your chances. Persuasive skills could be mastered over a period of continuous practice.
One common misconception is viewing a person you want to persuade as an opponent. Persuasion is not a battle and never has been, instead it is helping others in order to help yourself. Once you begin to look at persuasion in this light, things will become easier for you. Always bear in mind that everyone you come across including a child is intelligent and has his/her own sets of ideas and views of ideals. You cannot introduce your ideas and hope for others to abandon theirs, instead construct your views around their ideals to have them do things your way.
No matter how stupid you think a person's idea is, make no mistake by outrightly rejecting the "stupid" idea; this will make you the enemy. You'll have a better shot at persuading this person if can respectfully get him/her to talk you through the reasons behind the idea. Listen patiently and never interrupt. When the person is through, summarize the points that have been made. If this is done well, the person may now start seeing the flaws in his/her idea. At this point you can initiate your idea. Be careful to present your idea in such a way that will make this person first see his/her own benefits.
Offering a straight forward logic is always best in persuasion, but you will need to have critically examined all sides of the issue and prepare your answers for possible questions or objections that will arise. If you are asked a question answer the question without deviating, but if it is an objection, listen to the objector's point, agree with the point (not completely) to acknowledge the fellow's intelligence, and then suggest your better idea framed in a way to present more benefit to the objector.
You really need to be honest in your persuasive efforts to succeed in the long run. Admitting the fact that you also stand to gain if things happen your way is very decent and makes you more believable. You have to readily admit your own mistakes or any that you have made in the past that is related to what is on ground ~ this breathes an air of genuineness into the matter and it makes you appear humble. People don't like it when you come across as all seeing and all knowing. Trying to make a person you are persuading believe that you stand to gain nothing will ruin your efforts, because people generally tend to avoid anything that seem too good to be true.
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